I don’t remember if I did a blog about this in January or just discussed it on twitter but this morning I suddenly realised that its almost new-year again (well 2 months away isn’t exactly almost but anyway) and in the beginning new year there is a tradition here to wish one other a good new year and with that come sometimes 3 friendly and harmless kisses on the cheek. and that is where my problem lays, I am not really someone who does the whole kiss thing, unless its close family and even with my uncles and aunts or my sisters husband its kinda something I just go though because I am suppose to and I don’t mind it all that much so thats is fine. now people outside my family its a different matter, I do mind and most people can sense that just fine but last year it became clear that my boss (who I don’t even like) didn’t sense it or just ignored the signs that I am really someone who likes her personal space to be personal and went in for the traditional kisses, because I am allowed once a year he stated with that. I was baffled and let him but found it horrible.
I might be completely overreacting with this one but I feel the way I feel and can’t just shut them down because they are not rational. when he had his birthday I avoided him the whole day because I was afraid he thought it would be another situation where he would be allowed to do that to me, that is really how it feels like something done to me, I did feel violated if that is rational in the situation or not doesn’t really matter that is how I feel. and now 2 months before I am already worried about it, do I just suck it up and go though it because its not a real big deal and I’m kinda suppose to? do I try to avoid him until he forgets ? or do I try to make clear that its not okay with me ? and how do I do that without being rude or maybe hurt his feelings? he is still my boss and I do understand that he doesn’t mean any harm.
I really need some advise on this one ? and if there are any man and bosses reading this I especially want your views on this.